I work in an Integrative way, using a Person-Centred approach .
I allow the client to lead the direction of the discussion, and allow plenty of time and space for process as well as content.
I may also use Rewind Trauma Therapy, or Hypnosis, if appropriate.
Specialist therapies I offer include -
**Young People's Counselling**
**Anxiety & Depression **
** Family and Relationship Issues **
**LGBT and Supporting Transgender Clients**
**Trauma Counselling, which may include use of the REWIND method** **Bereavement Therapy**
ANXIETY & DEPRESSION
We all feel anxious or depressed sometimes - but - some people experience these feelings daily or nearly daily for no apparent reason, making it difficult to carry on with normal, everyday functioning. These people may have an anxiety disorder, depression, or both.
Anxiety and Depression are different things. However, many people who develop depression have a history of an anxiety disorder earlier in life. There is no evidence one disorder causes the other, but there is clear evidence that many people suffer from both disorders. Nearly one-half of those diagnosed with depression are also diagnosed with an anxiety disorder. The good news is that these disorders are both treatable, separately and together.
DEPRESSION is a condition in which a person feels discouraged, sad, hopeless, unmotivated, or disinterested in life in general. When such feelings last for more than two weeks and when the feelings interfere with daily activities such as taking care of family, spending time with friends, or going to work or school, it's likely to be depression, rather than just ‘low mood’ or ‘the blues’.
ANXIETY is characterized by persistent and excessive worry about a number of different things. Individuals find it difficult to control their worry. They may worry more than seems warranted about actual events or may expect the worst
even when there is no apparent reason for concern.
People who suffer with anxiety, which is also referred to as “General Anxiety Disorder” (GAD), experience excessive anxiety and worry, often expecting the worst even when there is no apparent reason for concern. They anticipate disaster and may be overly concerned about money, health, family, work, or other issues. GAD is diagnosed when a person finds it difficult to control worry on more days than not for at least six months and has three or more symptoms. Sometimes just the thought of getting through the day produces anxiety.
They don’t know how to stop the worry cycle and feel it is beyond their control,
even though they usually realize that their anxiety is more intense than the situation warrants.
General Anxiety Disorder comes on gradually and can begin across the life cycle, though the risk is highest between childhood and middle age. Although the exact cause of GAD is unknown, there is evidence that biological factors, family background, and life experiences, particularly stressful ones, play a role. When their anxiety level is mild, people with GAD can function socially and be gainfully employed. However, some people can have difficulty carrying out the simplest daily activities when their anxiety is severe.
If you are suffering with Depression and/or Anxiety, it can really help to talk things through and feel really listened to. We can also explore ways to reduce symptoms - and you may find that hypnotherapy (which I can also provide) may help, especially with anxiety.
Family problems are common, yet they are one of the most difficult things to talk about – the people involved may get angry or upset at any attempts to discuss the situation, and sometimes we dare not confide in others, such as friends or neighbours, in case something is repeated and causes trouble, so we can feel isolated with our problem and overwhelmed by it. For example, infidelities and secrets; children leaving home; conflict with in-laws; children being bullied; the process and/or aftermath of divorce or separation; the stresses of being a step-parent; coping with behavioural/learning difficulties; children coming out as gay/trans, to name but a few –
these things take their toll and it can really help to talk things through, in complete confidence, with a trained professional.
All relationships go through tough patches, but sometimes there seems no way out. Maybe it’s constant criticism, or jealousy; maybe there is infidelity, or you suspect that there might be; maybe abuse – not just physical, but constant put-downs, undermining, belittling; or the parent role is crowding out your roles as lovers and friends; sometimes it’s work that causes the problems, or in-laws …
whatever it is, it can help to talk about and get a new perspective.
YOUNG PEOPLE'S COUNSELLING
I worked for 6 years as a Counsellor in university and further education, and see many young people as private clients. Prior to this, I worked for over 20 years as a teacher in secondary education. I also have 4 children of my own.
I specialise in working with the 16-25 age group.
Children and young people can be badly affected by events such as abuse/rape; drug/alcohol/computer addiction; a parent/carer leaving, becoming ill or dying; conflict, violence or abuse within the family; bullying; academic pressure/exam nerves; self-harm; eating disorders; sexuality issues; moving to a different area/school; money problems; loneliness/friendship/relationship problems; anti-social behaviour.
When young people are unhappy they may also be angry and upset, and sometimes this results in taking risks, behaving badly and/ or abusing drugs and alcohol. Alternatively they may be withdrawn or over-anxious,
and may hurt themselves in other ways. Concentration at school often suffers. Therapy will take a person-centred approach, but may include Gestalt work, Mindfulness and/or DBT (Dialectical Behaviour Therapy) - which aims to change
unhelpful patterns of behaviour and thinking.
When things go off track in the teenage years, they can set the pattern for a lifetime.
Seeking professional support before problems become entrenched can make all the difference.
Supporting Transgender Clients
Intersex, AIS and Gender Dysphoria
Whilst biological sex and gender identity are the same for most people, this is not the case for everyone. A mismatch between sex and gender identity can lead to distressing and uncomfortable feelings.
Without appropriate help and support, some people may try to suppress their feelings and attempt to live the life of their biological sex. They may try to live according to their anatomical sex, rather than the gender they feel themselves to be, because of social expectations. Ultimately, however, most people are unable to keep this up, without becoming mentally and emotionally distressed.
Having or suppressing these feelings is often very difficult to deal with and, as a result, many transsexuals and people who are Intersex, or with AIS or gender dysphoria experience depression, self-harm or suicidal thoughts.
Not all Trans people want to go through surgical reassignment and so may face prejudice from others who do not take them seriously.
Those who do undergo reassignment surgery usually report high levels of personal satisfaction; however, they may still face prejudice or discrimination because of their condition. This can sometimes leave people feeling:
Isolated - if they are not with people who understand what they are going through
Stressed or afraid - because of not being accepted socially
Discriminated against - in social situations and at work, or at school/college
There are legal safeguards to protect against discrimination, but other types of prejudice may be much harder to deal with -
eg rejection by family and friends.
Counselling support can provide Trans people (and their families) with an opportunity to discuss their thoughts and receive support to help them cope with the emotional and psychological stress encountered before, during and after transition.
TRAUMA COUNSELLING and REWIND THERAPY
I am listed on the Register of Practitioners trained and approved by ARTT - The Association for Rewind Trauma Therapy, UK and USA. I am fully trained and qualified to use this method, having studied with Dr David Muss, the originator of this technique, on a training course Accredited by the British Psychological Society (BPS).
Rewind Therapy offers a way of permanently stopping distressing, involuntary recall in a short course of sessions. It is invaluable in treating trauma such as memories of military action, rape, assault, murder, burglary, accidents, and other trauma (including eyewitness trauma), and PTSD.
The Rewind Technique eradicates the root of the problem i.e. it stops the involuntary recall (that is, by providing a metaphorical box with a key into which traumatic memories can be locked. Once locked, the involuntary recall: flashbacks; nightmares; ruminations and recall due to triggers (places, people, smells, time of the year, sounds, and many, many others) will stop! However, if needed, the event can always be recalled just like any normal memory, because now, after Rewind Therapy, you have control of it. Once the involuntary recall is under control this removes the need for avoidance behaviour and eliminates the increased arousal. The Rewind, therefore, spares the client from being continuously affected by the recall and then having to use for example CBT or other approaches that focus mainly on providing a way of learning to live with intrusive memories of trauma. Rewind Therapy is very different from other imaginal exposure therapies because survivors are not required to either talk or write about their experience but rather re-experience it in their mind just as it regularly re-presents itself to them. The fact that no details are disclosed to the therapist results in several major benefits both for the survivor and for the therapist among which:
•Rewind Therapy minimizes the risk of the client being re-traumatized.
• In the case of servicemen, for example, there is no fear of disclosing sensitive information about deployment and no need to verbally describe distressing events.
• For survivors of rape and sexual abuse the benefit of not having to disclose upsetting details of the event to a stranger is self-evident.
Rewind Technique - is the fastest and most efficient way of putting an end to
distress caused by events such as:
* Abuse (Physical, Emotional, Psychological, Sexual)*Accidents * Arson * Assaults * Assaults at gun-point, knife-point, etc. * Burglary * Bullying * Combat e.g. armed forces * Domestic Violence * Drowning * Genocide * Mass shootings * Medical Traumas * Military experiences * Muggings * Natural Disasters * Plane Crashes * Rape *Road Rage * Road Traffic Accidents * Sexual assaults * Shipping disasters * Sporting Accidents * Torture *Train crashes * Traumatic childbirth * Vicarious Trauma * War *Witnessing an accident or assault or discovering an injured/deceased person.
SO HOW DOES IT WORK? - The theoretical basis - Imagine for a moment that your brain is divided into two parts; the front half is the bit you are using now, the back half is the memory area. If you experience anything other than a life threatening event it will first be accepted into the front half and then rapidly moved on to memory, leaving the front clear to receive your next experience or to view an event or image from memory. When we experience a TRAUMA (a life threatening event) this is so alien to our brain that the structures in our brain which "guard" the entrance to our memory (the amygdala and hippocampus etc.) refuse to let the traumatic event into memory to be processed. You can see, therefore, that if the traumatic experience cannot be allowed into memory then you are going to have to see it night and day. Your only way of coping is to attempt to cover it up - and you do this while awake by avoiding situations that will trigger off the recall. Your cover-up usually works and you can just about function until something reminds you of the event - which can be hundreds of things - and then your cover is blown and you are back to feeling anxious, weak and frightened by what's happening to you. Rewind Therapy will get the traumatic event past the "guards" and allow it to go inside your memory
and once it has found its place in memory it will no longer appear unless you willingly recall it.
You can finally move on with your life because you are back in control!
Over 80% of people treated by REWIND report a significant improvement.
I have worked as a Counsellor in the Department of Psychological Medicine at Morriston Hospital, Swansea, with patients suffering from Traumatic/Complicated Grief. Before that, I worked as a volunteer counsellor in the Bereavement Support Service at West Wales General Hospital, Glangwili.
I have also attended courses with the Child Bereavement Trust.
I offer complicated grief therapy and counselling to adults and young people.
Bereavement is devastating. It can also be a lonely and isolating experience. People may not understand how you feel, however close they are, or they may not want to talk about it. Some people you thought you could turn to might even try to avoid you. People tell you that you should be “over it” or to “move on”, but you can’t.
Your loss may be recent, or you might still have painful feelings months or even years later. After the loss of a loved one, you might feel very confused by the turmoil of your feelings; you may feel angry, resentful, constantly tearful and upset, or unable to think of life without your loved one. You may feel as if some days you are just about holding things together, whilst on other days you are not coping at all. You may feel upset that you sometimes get angry with the person who has died. Sometimes you catch yourself having a happy moment, or enjoying something – but then feel guilty about that.
No two experiences are ever the same.
Whatever has happened, however you are feeling, I can help you to find your way through,
so that you can start to visualise a new future.
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